#Reverb14: Prompt 4- Conduit

Today’s lovely prompt comes from an online friend whose writing I have deeply admired for over 4 years, Noel Rozny.

Prompt 4:

We are all lightning rods, conduits for that which the Universe wants born into this world. What energies did you channel this year?

Can I express how much I love this prompt? It’s like Noel has been rooting around in my brain!

My word for 2014 was Alternative– I wanted to challenge myself to think about my career and personal life differently than I ever had before. In some ways, I succeeded. When I checked in on my Reverb3 reflections this July, I reported my intention to launch a part-time ‘side gig’ as a wedding officiant in Savannah, GA while I built back my writing and coaching work and stepped away from recruiting.

It seemed like a left-field decision, and most definitely ‘alternative.’ Five months later, I am so glad that the universe led me to that decision! I’ve married about 20 couples, including 10 just this November, and conduit would be the perfect word to describe how I feel in that role. I love my work with couples and how I am able to channel and support their emotions into words in such a special moment. I feel like both a positive bolt of lightning of love and a soft floating cloud of relaxation for anxious couples all at the same time.

Savannah Wedding Officiant

When I was the Director of Teacher Recruitment for New York City Public Schools, I was always deeply proud of the impact that seemed to seep out of my fingers effortlessly. The systems I created, the team I managed, and my personal work behind the scenes ensured that thousands of teachers- theoretically the best of 20,000+ applicants- started their first day of work every year prepared and ready to create change in their classrooms for tens of thousands public school students. My work was important and meaningful, dammit- and I had the title to back it!

I have married all sorts of couples with unique stories. Earlier this week, I conducted an emergency wedding ceremony. The bride’s mom was on life support in Texas and they were removing all support within 48 hours. Before she had slipped into unconsciousness, her mom could not stop talking about how she was worried about her daughter and that there would be no one to take care of her anymore. On Monday, the bride’s sister called us from her mother’s hospital room, put us on speaker and held up the phone to her mom’s bed so she could hear the ceremony. After the bride and groom exchanged the rings they had been planning to use at the formal wedding and I pronounced them legally married, the bride told her mom through the phone that she could let go now because she was going to be taken care of by her husband.

I held hands, gave hugs to them and their young son, and made sure that we honored all the mixed emotions of what had just happened. I had never been so honored to be a conduit for all that energy. This was some of the most meaningful and impactful work I’ve experienced in my life. And I needed neither a title or an infrastructure to do it.

And as much as I treasure my role of being a conduit for others, I am also grateful for how this work has become a conduit for my own energies. Feeling lighter, I am inspired again and writing! I’ve written 10K words on my next book in the Confessions of a Teacher Recruiter series and have been writing about my new experiences being a conduit for love and family. Now I can only wish that I write as fierce and open as Noel (seriously, go read her stuff!)

How are you a conduit of energy for yourself and others?

  • Meredith S

    The story of that couple… wow. I’m awed. So glad you’ve shared.

    • Thank you. I had so many emotions, it was nice to share with others via Reverb!

  • noelrozny

    Tracy, I LOVED this post. Bravo to you for following your heart and making this big professional change. Leaving behind the security of a big title is nothing short of terrifying, but this is the kind of impact I think we would all much rather have during our short time on this earth. If I ever get married, believe me, I’ll be calling you!! Thanks for shout outs as well, you are too kind! :)

  • noelrozny

    PS that pic at the top is GORGEOUS!