Today’s prompt is from Jen Allen, who I have been happy to converse with via comments!
The hectic pace of our lives can make it difficult to remain connected to the things and the people that matter the most to us. We get wrapped up in our work or our busyness and connection falls by the wayside.
How have you created and/or sustained connections in your life this year?
In 2013, I complained about feeling isolated and not meeting many new women. I didn’t meet a lot of new people in 2014, but I sustained and developed the relationships with people I liked and were important to me. I also eliminated or minimized relationships with women- and men- who I didn’t think were a good fit for my interests and priorities.
Buh bye, mean girls.
I started having my favorite women over for regular dinners with wine. I also strengthened my connections with a small group of women who had been with my life for years. Some of it came naturally because of my wedding in March. My wedding started as an elopement, but when I told a few friends who lived far away that we were going to get married in a few weeks, plane tickets were mysteriously bought and we decided to make it a real celebration. As a feminist, I thought being walked down the aisle is archaic (I am not property!), but I walked into my wedding surrounded by a harem of my favorite women in the world. I wanted their feminine energy to launch me off to my new chapter in my life.
My wedding was of course about the start of the family I created with my new husband, but I couldn’t have imagined it without my friends, both old and new.
I’ve also had tremendous support and connection in a local Lean In group that I joined in January. When I started, I wasn’t sure how long I’d stay because I didn’t think I had much in common with the women who had very different career paths than I did and were also much older or younger. Plus, I hated the book. But I kept going every month and it was one of the best decisions I made. Those women rock! In the end, we spent a lot of time bonding over how lacking we found the book. After all, who wants to be second in command or be unhappy all the time?
I also want to shout out to a woman who has been very special to me this year, Megan Jones, the photographer who took all my wedding pictures and more importantly, has helped me get my feet wet as wedding officiant. We often ping each other daily on Facebook about the joy and stress of helping people with their weddings and that connection has been so important to me for the reasons Jen lists in her prompt.
How have you stayed connected?