Read My Guest Post on Girl Meets Geek

Hey there! I am back from a 10 day traveling tour of 4 flights, 3 train rides and a bus (earned the Jet Setter badge on FourSquare!) and am now catching up on emails, calls, and everything else. Will have some updates about the 2011 Social Learning Summit and the American Education Research Association conference, as well as our scholarship winner announcement and more information on our Make The Change You Want event next Tuesday.

In the meantime, here is a picture from my co-working experiment yesterday at Cafe Envie, an open air cafe in the French Quarter of New Orleans. It was heavenly and inspiring. Also, please take a moment to read my guest blog post on Girl Meets Geek on Empowerment through Social Media. Thanks so much to  Kate-Madonna Hindes, one of my role models, for giving me the opportunity to write for her. We would both love your comments.

 

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Thank You From the Bottom Of My Heart

I am getting ready to get on a train to Providence to speak at the Aspiring Teachers of Color summit at Brown University and then a plane to New Orleans to present at the American Educational Research Association conference. My scholarship contest (closing in 14.5 hours as I write this) was designed to celebrate my six month in anniversary serving clients and changing education. But it really began a year ago. As of April 2010, I’d given notice to my job and told all my staff, written the first draft of my business plan and finished the first level of my coach certification. It still seemed like a pipe dream and I some days I can’t believe I am now living my professional dream, a year later.

As of last night, I’d received over 200 Retweets and Facebook likes for all the posts I did this week about the scholarship. It brought tears to my eyes. Many of those people are strangers to me (right now), but they’re now part of my journey. Yesterday I met with four entrepreneurs who I met via Brazen Careerist and Twitter and had the most amazing conversations about changing the world. I can’t even believe that I didn’t know what Brazen Careerist was a year ago!

Since I am traveling next week, the blog will be dark except for an update on exciting events on April 19 and May 7. If you are a college student, young professional, or woman veteran and haven’t yet finished your application, I am shaking my head and giving you my best teacher look through my computer. Let’s do it, people!

Whether I know you or not, thank you so much to all of you for your support and love to me and this little start-up that could.

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2011 Reverb Update
: Achieving

As my readers know, I participated in the #Reverb10 blogger campaign in December 2010. During December, the campaign sent participating bloggers a daily reflection prompt in order to help you manifest more good stuff in 2011. I found the campaign mid-December and posted ten blog posts that covered 18 of the 31 prompts. I drafted posts that touched upon most of the other 13 prompts and still hope to publish those when appropriate, like today.

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In February, I re-categorized my blog to improve the overall performance of the site. The project included re-reading almost all of the 50+ posts I had written since I started blogging in fall 2010. When I re-read the Reverb posts, I felt a series of warm emotions.

– First, I was proud of myself for being so open and setting my intentions to the world.

– Second, the prompts made me do hard work on myself and think about what I needed to change for 2011. I am not sure I would have done it as effectively otherwise.

– Third, while I try to keep my personal and business lives separate, I shared most of the Reverb posts on my personal Facebook wall and it brought me closer to friends.

– Finally, I believe that what I shared can help people I don’t know. I am thankful that Reverb prompted me to put my experiences out on the big, bad internet for that reason alone.

I’ve received emails that Reverb 2011 is starting with monthly prompts. Since I’m still going at my own pace, I’ve decided to take on the February prompt and a December 28th prompt from Tara Sophia Mohr because they go hand in hand. Tara’s also been on my mind. She is launching a Playing Big coaching program this month and it looks exactly like what I wish I’d had when I decided to start my own business. If my professional development resources and time weren’t tied up right now, I’d be enrolled and am jealous of all the wonderful women who will participate.

The Prompts

December 28 – Achieve: What’s the thing you most want to achieve next year? How do you imagine you’ll feel when you get it? Free? Happy? Complete? Blissful? Write that feeling down. Then, brainstorm 10 things you can do, or 10 new thoughts you can think, in order to experience that feeling today. (Author: Tara Sophia Mohr)

February 2011: One month into 2011, what question(s) are you living? Are there any prompts/questions that arose during #reverb10 that are still resonating in your life? Are you living new questions?

Projecting: Achieving

I’ve talked a few times about a strategic change I made in 2011 to work with a time management and productivity coach. There is so much to do when launching a new business and I needed professional support to help me develop systems for making better decisions. I am always fascinated when she tells me something I told one of my own clients earlier in the day, but I just couldn’t see for myself!

After working with my coach for a little over two months, I feel that I am more productive on a day-to-day basis and when March 1 rolled around, I could see and feel growth in my business. I suddenly understood what could happen if I start thinking even bigger. “Feeling” growth is not comfortable to me- I need to express things in a very quantifiable way. So I am in the process of setting big, measurable goals for The Opportunities Project and myself between now and December 2011. It all came together once I had control of my time and focus.

With the haze cleared, I know that in 2011 I want to achieve two things – making my business its own “being”, and finding someone to share my life with. I am not sure how comfortable I am in talking about my love life on my public business blog, but it’s important to me and I need to start putting it out there. So it’s out there. On the business side, a quote that keeps resonating with me is from Michael Gerber about the difference between working ON your business and working IN it. He actually talks about business owners neglecting to work ON their businesses versus in them. At this point, I feel the opposite. I spend so much time on marketing, content and planning for the future and I want to switch so I am devoting more of my focus to client and service delivery. I want my business to be in a place where it starts working for me. Achieving this will make me feel secure and yet free. It will also allow me to devote focus to what I want to achieve in my personal life.

So what are ten things I could do or beliefs I could have to achieve my business goal?

1. Outsource and ask for help. (DONE- see an upcoming post.)
2. Be honest with people in my life about my intentions.
3. When looking at my To Do List, concentrate on the things that will bring me money ($)  or happiness ( :) ).
4. Put my current clients first before future clients.
5. Ensure that what I do everyday connects to my goal of creating a functioning business and is not a distraction.
6. End relationships that are not helping me with points 1-5.
7. Believe in the value that I bring to clients.
8. Remember that the whole is always more important than the parts.
9. Love and care for my whole self and not just my mind.
10. Understand that my personal goals are just as important as my professional goals and are often interrelated.

Reflecting: Lingering Questions

When looking at the Reverb topics I delved into, there are still some things that linger after three months. It’s good to look at them so I can re-prioritize.

The Wins…

Writing and Action: I’ve made great strides in organizing my writing, committing time to it, and producing content. I’ve created new systems for collecting ideas so I can focus on what’s open and ready to be completed.

Letters to Myself: I think that I’ve been better about intuition. I started the year off strong by not reading so much, but that’s crept back in. Interestingly, I was at a conference in February where I was confronted with people I used to hang out with in the year 2000, as well as the regrets I have about not taking the same paths they took. It was sobering, but it made me realize that it’s time to move on and pay attention to what I want in the here and now. I am meeting more people every day who have goals similar to mine.

Wisdom of Letting Go: This is a resolved. Even if entrepreneurship does not work out for me, I have no doubt that I made the right move at the right time.

11 Things to Leave Behind: To varying degrees, I’ve left grudges, procrastination, obligations, and impatience behind. The things to leave behind that I’ve been struggling with are related to personal/professional balance… which brings me to…

My challenges… Also known as my Next Wins!

Parties, Travel and Pleasures: Definitely not enough of this and when I think about how to bring this into my life, I see chaos and feel anxious. How can I have fun with such limited personal time and money? There’s a way, I’m sure. I am going to New Orleans next week with the NYU crew. It’s a work trip, but I Must. Involve. Fun. And. Beignets.

Big Wonders and Ordinary Joy: One of the down sides of clearing out the haze has been being stuck on very tactical things. I guess one of the big wonders I’ve felt is beginning to realize the power of social networking and what can be accomplished with it. This floors me every day.

Make: Use Your Artistic Side: I’ve definitely been using my artistic side to write more, but haven’t painted the sign for my door that I referenced in this post. I am in the process of clearing out my home office of paper as I am moving everything online, and also reorganizing the layout of furniture. I am eager to take the sign on as part of this office project.

You Are Your Best Investment (body integration)
: Next, please.

My Word for 2011
: I chose the word Living. I don’t feel like I am honoring this commitment the way I should and the February prompt is a good reminder to me. Again, it’s about thinking big, right?

How is your 2011 going?

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The Anatomy of an Opportunity: #SLS11

This weekend I participated in the 2011 Social Learning Summit (#SLS11) in Washington, DC. In one word, it was awesome. I learned so much and met so many amazing people. Many will become trusted online friends, some will become intimate offline colleagues, and others will become respected business partners.

When I share resources with clients, or tell friends about new things I am doing, they often ask “How do you find about these things?” I never have a straight answer. A simple answer is networking, but it’s more complex than that. I was thinking of how I became involved with #SLS11 and the story started to peel like an onion, going back to 2008.

Here is the path that took me to moderating a panel at the Social Learning Summit in DC.

1. In 2008, I finished my first year as Director of Teacher Recruitment for the NYC public schools. While I met the initial goals I set for improving the quality of new teacher hires, I realized we had some marketing and sales issues. I did some research on Google and found a NYC based organization called ERE.net Media for recruiters that had a message board. I posted a message asking for guest speakers to come talk to my staff on these topics and someone named Steve Levy (@levyrecruits) replied and offered to come. His talk was very influential on me and I continued to keep in touch with him and seek advice from him as a mentor after the talk. (realizing you don’t know something and asking for help)

2. Things happened in my personal and professional life and I decided to open my business in 2010. When I started The Opportunities Project, one of the first people I reached out to was Steve. In July 2010, we met and he downloaded some ideas for me. One of the things he told me was that once I got my new Twitter account up, I had to actively participate in Twitter chats. In particular, he mentioned #jobhuntchat and #genychat. I wrote it down and highlighted it, even though I had no clue what he was talking about. (building and maintaining relationships, trusting the advice of mentors)

3. In September 2010, I started getting involved in Twitter chats and found I loved them! I began tweeting regularly with #genychat’s founder, Chanelle Schneider (@WriterChanelle) who I think is a fabulous moderator and has interesting takes on social media and generations in the workplace. Whenever I am not doing offline networking, I participate in her chat. (trying something new, sticking with it)

4. In February 2011, I learned about New York’s Social Media Week from someone I met on Twitter and then in person, Alisha Miranda (@makeshiftalisha). I attended a panel on education and social media that was coincidentally hosted by @2tor, an education company founded by people I used to work with at The Princeton Review and have kept in touch with over the years. I was really affected by some of the things I heard and learned and I blogged about it a few times. Some of those entries have been the most trafficked posts I’ve written and the ones that generate the most emails to me. (learning new things, creating value)

5. Also in February 2011, I went to Washington, DC for the Teach for America 20th Anniversary Summit, a program I have stayed active in as an alumna. I knew that Chanelle lived in the DC area so I asked her if she could meet for coffee. We did and we talked about how my thoughts on social learning were evolving. She said she thought I might be a great fit for a conference she was involved with and would let me know. I followed up with her in March 2011 to learn more. (following-up)

6. In April 2011, I attended the Social Learning Summit and moderated the SAFE TEXT panel. (new opportunity) I am going to follow-up with everyone I met and see what happens next- for me and if there are ways I can pay it forward for them.

Somewhat of a boring and linear story, I know, but an important one for people who feel stuck or don’t know where to go next in their job search. We often want a quick fix and want interactions with people to be transactional, but It’s the small things and the long-tail that matters. Where are the opportunities in your own life where you could build relationships, ask for help, try something new and create value TODAY?

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Announcing The Scholarship Selection Panel

Just five days until our Spring 2011 Career Coaching Scholarship Contest closes! As I’m looking at the applications that have come in (and there are a lot of them!), I saw a few from people I’ve met before or connected with on Brazen or Twitter and I want the competition to be unbiased. Last week, I reached out to some of my colleagues in education, communications, blogging, and recruitment to ask them to join my official Scholarship Selection Panel to help. The panel will read the applications and give me their recommendations for winners in each category. Justin and I will make the final decisions based on their recommendations and announce them on April 15th.

Here is our panel. Read about their accomplishments and the diverse paths they’ve taken.

Donald Ivanoff

Donald Ivanoff

Donald Ivanoff has been a higher education administrator and fundraiser for more than 25 years.  Most recently, he worked for Career Education Corporation (CEC) developing alumni outreach, communications and social networking programs at CEC’s schools in the northeast.  Previously, he served in two roles at Polytechnic University in Brooklyn, NY; director of alumni relations and director of student activities and leadership development, coordinating a range of programs and services that positively engaged students and alumni. He has served on the advisory board for “Student Leader” magazine and been published in “Campus Activities” magazine. Donald has a BFA from The University of Bridgeport.

Greg Palmer

Greg PalmerGreg Palmer is a strategic communications consultant to non-profits, political causes, and government agencies, with a focus on improving online and social media communications. A former staffer for NYC schools chancellor Joel Klein and Congressman Henry A. Waxman, he works toward a more equitable society. He is passionate about marriage equality, civil rights, education, poverty, good government, journalism, and civic participation, among other things. He maintains a digital home at http://gregpalmer.me and is rarely away from Twitter (@gregpalmer).

Niki Stanley

Niki StanleyNiki Stanley is a Human Resources Professional with 10+ years experience specializing in corporate recruitment and human capital management. Having led talent-acquisition initiatives for companies such as Olympus America, Omnicom and Time Warner Cable, she currently supports teachers at the NYC Department of Education to market themselves during internal job searches within the district. Niki also hosts a blog called Neighborhood Fellows which address events and issues that affect the African-American and middle-class communities. Passionate about being a voice to strengthen and make a difference in her community, she serves as co-chair of the Urban League Young Professional Policy committee and is a fast-rising Matchmaker, determined to do her part to spread love and create strong families.

Adriana VilavicencioAdriana Vilavicencio

Dr.  Adriana Villavicencio is a Research Associate at the Research Alliance for New York City Schools at New York University. Adriana served as a department chair at a charter high school in Oakland, California; as an English teacher in Brooklyn, New York; and worked on the development of a new school in Bangalore, India. She currently serves as a managing editor for the Journal of Equity in Education and as a staff writer for Being Latino Online Magazine. Her work for Being Latino covers a range of educational, political, and lifestyle topics. Adriana holds a B.A. in English from Columbia University, an M.A. in English Education from Teachers College, Columbia University, and a Ph.D. in Education Leadership from New York University Steinhardt School of Culture, Education, and Human Development. She also serves on the Board of Directors for the Latino Alumni Association of Columbia University.

Remember, applications are due on Friday, April 8 at 11:59PM!

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April 4 Monday Music, Announcements

It’s Monday! Here are our latest announcements at the beginning of a VERY busy week.

Social Learning Summit Wrap-Up

Sls11_tweet_cloudWe’re back from attending and hosting the SAFE TEXT panel at the Social Learning Summit in Washington, DC, hosted by the American University Social Media Club. We had a great time and met some amazing people. We’ll have some information on our blog about the event throughout the next week. In the mean time, here’s the Tweet Cloud as of 11 AM this morning for #SLS11. People are still actively connecting with the hashtag so it’s a work in progress.

 

Scholarship Applications Due This Friday

Remember, you have until Friday at 11:59PM to submit your application for one of our Spring 2011 Scholarships. The competition is fierce so make sure your application is great! Our next blog post will announce our Scholarship Selection Panel.

Upcoming Speaking Engagements

I am speaking at some upcoming private events. This Saturday, I’ll speaking at the Woodrow Wilson-Rockefeller Brothers Fund Conference for Aspiring Teachers of Color at Brown University in Providence, RI. Next Monday, I’ll be speaking at The American Education Research Association’s Annual Conference in New Orleans on teacher preparation and the job market. Wish me luck!

The Make The Change You Want Networking Event

I am happy to announce a new partnership with Brett Kunsch, personal coach and founder of Millennial Coach. On April 19th, we’ll be co-hosting a networking event around goal setting, making change, and realizing the vision you want for your life. More information coming, but the event is open for RSVPs now.

Music Monday

This song comes to mind after the Social Learning Summit. I felt like we were planning a revolution for personal and community empowerment. What if you ruled the world? (BTW, Lyrics not safe for work!)

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We’re Participating in the 2011 Social Learning Summit!

I left out some important news yesterday!

I’ll be at the 2011 Social Learning Summit Friday, April 1 to Sunday, April 3 at American University in Washington, DC. It’s a fantastic conference for job seekers, students, educators, and anyone else who wants to expand their network.

I’ll be moderating the “Practice Safe TEXT: Safe Practices for the Social Media Generation” panel on Saturday at the 2011 Social Learning Summit in Washington, DC! You can register for the summit for $10 here.

What questions should I ask the panel? Leave your ideas in the comments.

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Book Winner, Scholarship Update, Music Monday

Where did the weekend go?

I’ve used the last few Mondays on the blog for general announcements and events and last Monday, I used it to share a song. So I’ve decided going forward, Monday will be Music Monday and we’ll share any important updates and news and top it off with a YouTube video of a song that I listened to in the last week that made me work a little harder. Be warned that I graduated from high school in the early 90s and I have TERRIBLE taste in music and my ITunes reflects that. Expect a lot of obscure new jack swing. And Glee.

Updates and News

Congratulations to Alexandra Ancy who won the book of her choice at our Building Your Soft Skills Workshop last week. Alex picked Do More Great Work by Michael Bungay Stanier. I think it’s a fantastic choice. I want to also thank Alex for helping out this weekend at the Fresh Air Fund Career Awareness Day. Together, we facilitated five career coaching workshops for NYC middle school and high school students. Students role-played a coaching session where one played the coach and the other played the client. They all agreed that it was harder to be the client. I agree. It’s not that being a coach is easy, but clients are the ones who have to make really difficult decisions and think about themselves in new ways and that is not easy.

I’ve also extended my 2011 Spring Scholarship application deadline to Friday, April 8th. I looked at the applications on Saturday and while I’ve received a number of applicants for the College Student and Young Professional Scholarships (go West Coast!), I’ve received few for the Female Veteran Scholarship and that’s because I’ve done a poor job marketing it. So everyone gets an extra week. Use it to make your application really good!

Music Monday Pick

This song came up when on shuffle this week. Silly, but it always gets me moving. Happy Monday!

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Guest Post: Stretching Your Comfort Zone by Amanda Pinto

I am pleased to feature a guest post today from recent graduate Amanda Pinto, a public relations professional. I met Amanda in the #jobhuntchat Twitter chat in early Fall 2010. Amanda wanted to move to NYC and I told her to look me up if she moved. In December, she did move here and we had an in-person chat over coffee at Ted & Honey in Cobble Hill and I was really impressed at her courage and conviction.

Amanda recently decided to move back to Georgia and I invited her to write a post for our readers on the lessons she learned about job searching and relocating to NYC, as well as advice for other job seekers and recruiters who are looking to hire the best of today’s recent graduates. Here’s Amanda’s post.


Amanda PintoIt’s not easy to step out of your comfort zone but often times it is what you need to find out who you truly are. I decided to make a move to New York City shortly after I graduated from college and it was an amazing experience. Unfortunately, NY didn’t work out for me job wise so I have just recently moved back to Atlanta to continue my PR job search.

In New York I learned a ton about the job hunt. First and foremost, social networking is the best tool you can have! I can’t tell you how many people I met in person because I had connected with them online first. I made very good friends through social networking as well. I even landed interviews because of Twitter!

The next lesson I learned was the fact that sometimes no matter how hard you try certain things do not work out. It’s extremely difficult not to take it personally when these things don’t work out but if I had let that get to me I would have gone crazy. Yes, at times you can blame yourself but there are other times where it is completely out of your control.

If I had any advice for people trying to recruit my age group I would say open communication is key. For me, I want to be kept up to date on where the hiring process is and not kept in the dark. I’d rather know that I’m up against this many people and that they have this amount of experience. Just tell me how it is. I feel like that is something my generation wants in this job hunt. It’s beyond frustrating when you have multiple interviews and then your contact person just falls off the face of the earth. I completely understand that they probably have many candidates but if you take the time to interview us more than once, please just let me know that you don’t want me.  I give a lot more credit to the places I applied to that gave me straightforward answers than the ones who beat around the bush.

I wouldn’t say my expectations were too high about finding a PR job in New York but I do think I should have been a little more realistic when it came to this economy. I wish I could somehow have gotten more experience in college but then again I literally did everything I could. I put myself out there countless times and I don’t regret it at all! As difficult as it is right now you won’t get anywhere if you don’t try. Therefore I know something will work out for all of us hard workers out there!

Don’t give up! Keep your passion!

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Team Rebecca: Three Career Lessons from Ms. Black

The Opportunities Project is on Team Rebecca Black.

This past Friday (how appropriate), I finally made a point to find out who Rebecca Black is and why everyone is talking about her on Twitter, Gawker and Jezebel. For those of you who haven’t heard about Rebecca, she’s the 13-year-old California girl who recorded a song and video called “Friday.” It was a vanity project that her parents paid for, though they say much of the cost was associated with retaining the rights to the song because Rebecca co-wrote it. Rebecca and the production company, The Ark Factory, uploaded the video to You Tube and Facebook, mostly to share it with friends and family. The video went viral and in a week, the video had 17 million views and is now ranked 32 on the ITunes Singles Chart. She sold more singles this week than Justin Bieber and Simon Cowell is her new biggest fan.

On the hateful side, people have left negative comments on her video and are tweeting what what an awful singer and dancer she is and even her appearance (“I hope you cut yourself and I hope you get an eating disorder so you’ll look pretty.”). We know that the internet just has sucky people, but there are also relatively sane people contributing to the fire. People feel so personally offended that this girl is usurping some construct they’ve developed about the music industry’s rightful pecking order and outraged that a song that’s not pure “art” is becoming successful. Hmmm. Here is what I know and don’t know about Rebecca Black and “Friday.”

  • I know that the song is completely ridiculous, especially that part in the middle where she recites the days of the week. But most party anthems are ridiculous- Party in the USA anyone?
  • I know that “Friday” is extremely catchy- it has not left my head since I first heard it.
  • I know that she had a lot of fun filming the video- her smile is addictive. For people who thought the video was an elaborate joke, remember that this is a song and a video about a 13-year-old girl.
  • I don’t know if Rebecca is talented because the producers at Ark Factory Music overused auto-tune. She sounds a lot like Kesha and that is not a compliment.
  • I know that in 2011, Rebecca will likely make a lot of money because she did a project that she liked and “shipped.

Not liking the song and video seems fair, but attacking Rebecca Black doesn’t. I read some of the media interviews with Rebecca and I think there are lessons that the adults can learn and apply to their personal and career development.

Lesson One: If you want it, take a calculated risk- invest in yourself and put yourself out there.

In addition to questions about her talent, many people seem upset that Rebecca’s family paid the studio to produce the video because they’re uncomfortable with the notion that she may have bought her way to fame. Her family’s take is that they paid the studio for work they did on the video and people don’t work for free. The price for the song and video was in their budget, and there was potential for it make money, so they felt that it was worth the investment for them and Rebecca’s dream. Seems logical to me.

What are you doing to investing in yourself? I’m a huge fan of Dan Miller and his podcast. He constantly receives emails from people who want to become writers, but say they can’t afford to spend a few hundred dollars for writing classes. He tells them if you don’t want it enough to save, invest, and even *gasp* take out a small amount of short-term debt to do that, he can’t help them. His point is that your beliefs and how you spend your money are entwined and you must see that.

It’s estimated that Rebecca’s family spent $2,000 on the video. That may be a lot of money for you- it would be for me right now as an entrepreneur. But what can you do that is in your price range this week to invest in yourself? Buy a $15 book on goal setting? Take a $25 workshop on marketing that you found on Eventbrite?

I also agree with this Chicago blogger’s thoughts: In America, we are so quick to jump to the defense of young people who are victimized, but we go out of our way to take down the ones who show strength and put themselves out there to win. What does that say about us?

Lesson Two: Stay in your own life.

“At first, when I first saw all these nasty comments, I did cry. I felt like this was my fault. And I shouldn’t have done this, and this is all because of me. And now I don’t feel that way.” After an hour of self-doubt and sorrow, Rebecca wiped away her tears and went to find her mom. “I said, ‘No, I’m not going to give them the satisfaction of making me take it down.’ ‘No, this is going to work out. I just want to let it go. Let it do its thing.'”

Too often, we spend our mental energy concerned with how other people are going to judge us. I’ve been working on a future blog post on the ego and how it gets in the way of success for 90% of job seekers I meet. It makes them go to great lengths to protect themselves so they don’t pursue opportunities, or when they hear something they don’t like, they spend all of their emotional energy defending themselves to confirm their place in the world. You can’t control how the outside world is going to perceive you. The only thing you can do is let that go and focus on what you can control- your own desires and how you develop yourself to achieve them

Also, self-doubt and sorrow are important emotions. Make a commitment to feel them when they approach. The important part is to shed them quickly the way Rebecca did.

Lesson Three: Practice resilience.

“This is my time to show them how strong I am,” Rebecca says. “That I’m a lot stronger than them. So say what you want, it’s not going to stop me. You’re entitled to your opinion. But I believe in myself.”

I’m working with clients who are setting long-term goals and my favorite book on this topic is Stephen Covey’s The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. It’s a powerful book and I just re-read parts to find ways I can better serve these clients. I came up with many insights during my re-read, but one that seems applicable here is remembering that being positive and proactive are different things. It takes great courage to face the kind of public criticism that Rebecca faced. Some of us can do that, and even let it go. Real resilience is when you do those two steps and then continue on your path because it’s yours and you want it.

And for all the people who are claiming that “Friday” is the worst music video ever made, you’re wrong. This is the absolute worst music video ever made and I get great joy from watching it over and over. Steve Perry, if they gave Oscars for music videos, you’d be a contender.

(8TF7GRQ6DFG8)

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